Women are certainly guilty of putting their kids ahead of their partner — maybe even more so than men, especially since they are nearly always the primary care giver in the event of divorce.

Because in those families, there is all the more love to go around.

A couple years ago, a guy I went out with read my blog before we went out, and mulled my opinions on putting your kids behind your romantic partner.

And in these families, the parents put their relationship before the kids.

Another’s girlfriend eventually broke up with him after several years because he rarely made time to spend alone with her, instead expecting constant family time with his son.

It’s very common for guys with kids to write in their OKCupid profiles: “My kids come first,” or “My daughter is the center of my world! You want a potential mate to know that your life includes the giant presence of a kid or four. Plus, if you’ve gone through divorce or another crisis that landed you as a single parent, you are no doubt concerned about giving your kids extra care and sense of security. But it is even trickier if one or both of the parents put the kids before their partner.

You also want women to know you’re a devoted dad (it’s no secret chicks get hot for guys who are great with kids! It’s no surprise that so many blended families I know struggle with adjusting all parties to a home where everyone is suddenly expected to revolve around the new relationship. One dad I went out with nearly boasted when telling me about a four-month relationship that went sour because his girlfriend did not understand why he’d abruptly leave in the middle of dinner because his tween son would call, upset about some matter with his hockey coach.I loved his hipsterrific glasses and that he didn’t chide me when I used words like extemporaneous extemporaneously.Around three months into the relationship, he introduced me to his beloved three year old son, who he has half the week.Stop putting kids first Imagine a relationship that centers on the two of you, and all the stability and care your kids will take from that.Accept that a truly wonderful relationship only multiplies the love available to your kids — not robs them of some of yours.When he asked if I wanted to one day have kids, I responded honestly: I don’t know.